Oh thanks for clarifying!! I thought so, but couldn't find concrete evidence. (edit: i just realized I forgot to change the post to say that im p sure s.e.smith is Meloukhia, so that's double fail)
It's actually a different controversy, happily I really haven't seen anyone saying that allo aros can't use the term!! What I meant was, hm, sometimes an aro person says "This is an aro term that was made up by aros", often in response to someyhing like "QPRs, that's a non-sexual romantic relationship, right??". This aro may get a response of "This is an ace term that was made up by aces" - it doesn't lead to calling for certain groups to stop using the term, it's just this... well, debate about ownership, which community gets to discuss the definition... It's not as nasty as gatekeeping, but it definitely leads to some bad blood between the communities, which I don't want, which is why I want more people to know how the term came to be, so we can avoid debates about "who gets the final say".
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Date: 4 Mar 2019 19:49 (UTC)It's actually a different controversy, happily I really haven't seen anyone saying that allo aros can't use the term!! What I meant was, hm, sometimes an aro person says "This is an aro term that was made up by aros", often in response to someyhing like "QPRs, that's a non-sexual romantic relationship, right??". This aro may get a response of "This is an ace term that was made up by aces" - it doesn't lead to calling for certain groups to stop using the term, it's just this... well, debate about ownership, which community gets to discuss the definition... It's not as nasty as gatekeeping, but it definitely leads to some bad blood between the communities, which I don't want, which is why I want more people to know how the term came to be, so we can avoid debates about "who gets the final say".