Yes, this type of situation was exactly why I said "which, should we?" after the bit about queerplatonic and Romantic being mutually exclusive.
Also, me too! I'm an aroace in a Romantic relationship where my partner feels romantically towards me but I don't distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction, so it's not specifically romantic for me. Our relationship does "look like" a Romantic relationship, even if those actions aren't specifically romantic for me, which is why I am fine with calling it that. I think queerplatonic could describe our relationship just as well since it's not actually really romantic for me, but I don't really care about the word used to describe it.
And when do you go around calling Romantic relationships Romantic anyway (besides in aspec communities)? Usually I just call them my partner, which isn't specifically romantic or (queer)platonic.
Also, I think that the thing with Romantic relationships is that the norm isn't really set by the aspec communities, it is set by society in general (which was part of the original problem that gave birth to the word queerplatonic). I do think it is valuable to expand the notion of what Romantic relationships can be as well (I even have a draft of a post talking about how that is necessary to combat amatonormativity, albeit with a slightly different angle)
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Date: 8 Mar 2019 20:33 (UTC)Also, me too! I'm an aroace in a Romantic relationship where my partner feels romantically towards me but I don't distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction, so it's not specifically romantic for me. Our relationship does "look like" a Romantic relationship, even if those actions aren't specifically romantic for me, which is why I am fine with calling it that. I think queerplatonic could describe our relationship just as well since it's not actually really romantic for me, but I don't really care about the word used to describe it.
And when do you go around calling Romantic relationships Romantic anyway (besides in aspec communities)? Usually I just call them my partner, which isn't specifically romantic or (queer)platonic.
Also, I think that the thing with Romantic relationships is that the norm isn't really set by the aspec communities, it is set by society in general (which was part of the original problem that gave birth to the word queerplatonic). I do think it is valuable to expand the notion of what Romantic relationships can be as well (I even have a draft of a post talking about how that is necessary to combat amatonormativity, albeit with a slightly different angle)