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In this entry you'll find: Basic Terms, Identities, Attraction Terms, Relationship Terms
Basic Terms:
Alloromantic – describes a person who experiences romantic attraction or is not on the aromantic spectrum.
Allosexual – describes a person who experiences sexual attraction or is not on the asexual spectrum.
Amatonormativity - the widespread assumption that everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship, and that everyone is seeking such a relationship.
Aroace (aro/ace) – an abbreviation of aromantic asexual, a term by which people who are aromantic and asexual describe themselves.
Aromantic (aro) – describes a person who experiences little to no romantic attraction, abbreviated to aro. It is also used as a noun, example: All aromantics deserve happiness.
Aromanticism – noun form of aromantic.
Aromantic spectrum (arospec) – an umbrella term for orientations based on conditional romantic attraction and no attraction, abbreviated to arospec. Arospec is also used as a specific identity describing someone who experiences conditional romantic attraction, but doesn’t label it further.
Greyromantic (grey aromantic) – an identity on the aromantic spectrum, describes a person who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances. Can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum except for aromanticism.
Queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) relationship (QPR) – a committed relationship that goes beyond what is the cultural norm of acceptable level of intimacy and/or behaviors between friends and is not romantic. Abbreviated to QPR, queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) partner to QPP. Another common word for QPP is zucchini.
Romantic attraction – the type of attraction to another person that comes with strong feelings and usually infatuation and the wish to form a romantic relationship with that person.
Romantic orientation – a label describing the usual patterns of a person’s romantic attraction or the lack of it.
Romance repulsion –a condition where someone has a strong negative reaction to romance (when it’s towards themselves, when seeing it in real life or in media). Not limited to aromantics.
Identities:
Acoromantic – someone whose negative experiences with romantic attraction/relationships/etc have kept them from their alloromanticism.
Adfecturomantic / affecturomantic / adfectual / adfomantic – someone whose romantic attraction is affected by one’s neurodivergency, especially fluctuating moods, personality disorders and affects from PTSD / being a trauma survivor.
Aegoromantic / autochorisromantic – someone who enjoys the idea of romance, but does not wish to be a participant in romantic activities because of a disconnect between the fantasy and reality of romance.
Akoiromantic / lithromantic – someone who may experience romantic attraction, and likes the idea of being in a romantic relationship, but stops experiencing romantic attraction, or does not enjoy it, once they are in a romantic relationship and/or have the feelings reciprocated. Many don’t want to act on it or have it reciprocated because of this.
Apothiromantic – someone on the aromantic spectrum who is romance repulsed.
Apresromantic – someone who only experiences romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt.
Aromantic – someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction.
Arospec – someone who experiences conditional romantic attraction, but doesn’t label it further.
Aroflux – someone who fluctuates along the aromantic spectrum. Arofluid can be used if the transition is fluid.
Arospike – someone who feels no attraction except in occasional bursts of intense attraction before returning to no attraction.
Arovague – someone whose status as an aromantic person is heavily influenced (in whole or part) by your status as a neurodivergent person.
Bellusromantic – someone who has interest in romantic-coded activities, but doesn’t experience attraction or want a relationship.
Caedoromantic – someone whose romantic orientation incorporates the specific feeling that one used to be alloromantic, but that it has been cut away due to past trauma.
Cupioromantic – someone not experiencing romantic attraction, but desiring to form a romantic relationship.
Demiromantic – someone who develops romantic attraction only after an emotional bond has been formed.
Frayromantic – someone who is romantically attracted to people they are less familiar with. This is often seen as the reverse of demiromantic.
Greyromantic (grey aromantic) – someone who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances. Can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum except for aromanticism.
Idemromantic – someone who experiences romantic and platonic attraction similarly or identically, but separates them based on external factors, such as age, compatibility, closeness, etc.
Lithromantic – see Akoiromantic.
Nebularomantic – someone who is unable to or having a hard time distinguishing romantic attraction from platonic attraction due to one’s status as neurodivergent/being quoiroromantic because of one’s status as neurodivergent.
Noviromantic – someone whose romantic orientation that is too complex to be described in one word. A person who identifies as novioromantic might be a mixture of several other orientations or none of them.
Placioromantic – someone who feels little to no desire to have romantic-coded acts performed on them but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. Not necessarily arospec.
Quoiromantic / WTFromantic – someone who is unsure if they experience romantic attraction, because the concept of romantic attraction is nonsensical, inaccessible, and/or inapplicable.
Recipromantic – someone who only experiences romantic attraction when they know someone is romantically interested in them.
Requistoromantic – someone who has limited or no romantic attraction/interest in romantic-coded activities due to some form of emotional exhaustion (for neurodivergent / disabled arospecs only).
WTFromantic – see Quoiromantic.
Attraction terms:
Aesthetic attraction – attraction based on a visual appreciation or captivation of the physical appearance or allure of another person.
Alterous attraction – often described as the in-between of platonic and romantic attraction. It is the desire to be in an emotionally close relationship with someone, but which is not set to romantic standards. The definition of alterous attraction is very loose and it is up to the individual to define for themself.
Emotional attraction – attraction which represents the desire to be in contact with another person for the purposes of forming, fostering, or maintaining an emotional bond with them.
Exteramo attraction – attraction that is neither platonic or romantic. An attraction that is not in between platonic and romantic, but rather exists outside of platonic and romantic attraction.
Intellectual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to form, foster, or maintain an intellectual or mental connection or engagement with another person.
Lush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for sensual attraction.
Platonic attraction – attraction that comes with the desire to be friends with someone.
Plush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for when someone wants to form a queerplatonic relationship with a person.
Romantic attraction – attraction to another person that comes with strong feelings and usually infatuation and the wish to form a romantic relationship with that person.
Sensual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to be physically, but not sexually intimate with someone.
Sexual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to engage in sexual contact or to be aroused in a manner that generates such interest.
Smush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for sexual attraction.
Squish – a variation of the word “crush”, but for platonic attraction.
Swish – a variation of the word “crush”, but for aesthetic attraction.
Relationship terms:
Aromate – a friend who is practically your soulmate.
Nonamory (nonpartnering) – a lifestyle choice or relationship style that does not include intimate, long-term partnerships, whether romantic or platonic.
Peach fuzz – a term for a queerplatonic partner who pretends to be a romantic partner if needed in front of family or other people. Variation on the term “beard” for gay people.
Queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) relationship (QPR) – a committed relationship that goes beyond what is the cultural norm of acceptable level of intimacy and/or behaviors between friends and is not romantic.
Abbreviated to QPR, queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) partner to QPP. Another common word for QPP is zucchini.
Soft romo – an adjective to describe something, for example a relationship, as something that is low-level romantic.
Sources:
https://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/68737057155/nonamory
https://aromantic.lgbt/glossary
https://aromanticrey.tumblr.com/post/176993774473/time-to-coin-a-new-term
http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/glossary
https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/
https://medium.com/@Michael_Paramo/beyond-sex-the-multi-layered-model-of-attraction-1406112f3780
Basic Terms:
Alloromantic – describes a person who experiences romantic attraction or is not on the aromantic spectrum.
Allosexual – describes a person who experiences sexual attraction or is not on the asexual spectrum.
Amatonormativity - the widespread assumption that everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship, and that everyone is seeking such a relationship.
Aroace (aro/ace) – an abbreviation of aromantic asexual, a term by which people who are aromantic and asexual describe themselves.
Aromantic (aro) – describes a person who experiences little to no romantic attraction, abbreviated to aro. It is also used as a noun, example: All aromantics deserve happiness.
Aromanticism – noun form of aromantic.
Aromantic spectrum (arospec) – an umbrella term for orientations based on conditional romantic attraction and no attraction, abbreviated to arospec. Arospec is also used as a specific identity describing someone who experiences conditional romantic attraction, but doesn’t label it further.
Greyromantic (grey aromantic) – an identity on the aromantic spectrum, describes a person who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances. Can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum except for aromanticism.
Queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) relationship (QPR) – a committed relationship that goes beyond what is the cultural norm of acceptable level of intimacy and/or behaviors between friends and is not romantic. Abbreviated to QPR, queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) partner to QPP. Another common word for QPP is zucchini.
Romantic attraction – the type of attraction to another person that comes with strong feelings and usually infatuation and the wish to form a romantic relationship with that person.
Romantic orientation – a label describing the usual patterns of a person’s romantic attraction or the lack of it.
Romance repulsion –a condition where someone has a strong negative reaction to romance (when it’s towards themselves, when seeing it in real life or in media). Not limited to aromantics.
Identities:
Acoromantic – someone whose negative experiences with romantic attraction/relationships/etc have kept them from their alloromanticism.
Adfecturomantic / affecturomantic / adfectual / adfomantic – someone whose romantic attraction is affected by one’s neurodivergency, especially fluctuating moods, personality disorders and affects from PTSD / being a trauma survivor.
Aegoromantic / autochorisromantic – someone who enjoys the idea of romance, but does not wish to be a participant in romantic activities because of a disconnect between the fantasy and reality of romance.
Akoiromantic / lithromantic – someone who may experience romantic attraction, and likes the idea of being in a romantic relationship, but stops experiencing romantic attraction, or does not enjoy it, once they are in a romantic relationship and/or have the feelings reciprocated. Many don’t want to act on it or have it reciprocated because of this.
Apothiromantic – someone on the aromantic spectrum who is romance repulsed.
Apresromantic – someone who only experiences romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt.
Aromantic – someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction.
Arospec – someone who experiences conditional romantic attraction, but doesn’t label it further.
Aroflux – someone who fluctuates along the aromantic spectrum. Arofluid can be used if the transition is fluid.
Arospike – someone who feels no attraction except in occasional bursts of intense attraction before returning to no attraction.
Arovague – someone whose status as an aromantic person is heavily influenced (in whole or part) by your status as a neurodivergent person.
Bellusromantic – someone who has interest in romantic-coded activities, but doesn’t experience attraction or want a relationship.
Caedoromantic – someone whose romantic orientation incorporates the specific feeling that one used to be alloromantic, but that it has been cut away due to past trauma.
Cupioromantic – someone not experiencing romantic attraction, but desiring to form a romantic relationship.
Demiromantic – someone who develops romantic attraction only after an emotional bond has been formed.
Frayromantic – someone who is romantically attracted to people they are less familiar with. This is often seen as the reverse of demiromantic.
Greyromantic (grey aromantic) – someone who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances. Can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum except for aromanticism.
Idemromantic – someone who experiences romantic and platonic attraction similarly or identically, but separates them based on external factors, such as age, compatibility, closeness, etc.
Lithromantic – see Akoiromantic.
Nebularomantic – someone who is unable to or having a hard time distinguishing romantic attraction from platonic attraction due to one’s status as neurodivergent/being quoiroromantic because of one’s status as neurodivergent.
Noviromantic – someone whose romantic orientation that is too complex to be described in one word. A person who identifies as novioromantic might be a mixture of several other orientations or none of them.
Placioromantic – someone who feels little to no desire to have romantic-coded acts performed on them but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. Not necessarily arospec.
Quoiromantic / WTFromantic – someone who is unsure if they experience romantic attraction, because the concept of romantic attraction is nonsensical, inaccessible, and/or inapplicable.
Recipromantic – someone who only experiences romantic attraction when they know someone is romantically interested in them.
Requistoromantic – someone who has limited or no romantic attraction/interest in romantic-coded activities due to some form of emotional exhaustion (for neurodivergent / disabled arospecs only).
WTFromantic – see Quoiromantic.
Attraction terms:
Aesthetic attraction – attraction based on a visual appreciation or captivation of the physical appearance or allure of another person.
Alterous attraction – often described as the in-between of platonic and romantic attraction. It is the desire to be in an emotionally close relationship with someone, but which is not set to romantic standards. The definition of alterous attraction is very loose and it is up to the individual to define for themself.
Emotional attraction – attraction which represents the desire to be in contact with another person for the purposes of forming, fostering, or maintaining an emotional bond with them.
Exteramo attraction – attraction that is neither platonic or romantic. An attraction that is not in between platonic and romantic, but rather exists outside of platonic and romantic attraction.
Intellectual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to form, foster, or maintain an intellectual or mental connection or engagement with another person.
Lush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for sensual attraction.
Platonic attraction – attraction that comes with the desire to be friends with someone.
Plush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for when someone wants to form a queerplatonic relationship with a person.
Romantic attraction – attraction to another person that comes with strong feelings and usually infatuation and the wish to form a romantic relationship with that person.
Sensual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to be physically, but not sexually intimate with someone.
Sexual attraction – attraction that induces a desire to engage in sexual contact or to be aroused in a manner that generates such interest.
Smush – a variation of the word “crush”, but for sexual attraction.
Squish – a variation of the word “crush”, but for platonic attraction.
Swish – a variation of the word “crush”, but for aesthetic attraction.
Relationship terms:
Aromate – a friend who is practically your soulmate.
Nonamory (nonpartnering) – a lifestyle choice or relationship style that does not include intimate, long-term partnerships, whether romantic or platonic.
Peach fuzz – a term for a queerplatonic partner who pretends to be a romantic partner if needed in front of family or other people. Variation on the term “beard” for gay people.
Queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) relationship (QPR) – a committed relationship that goes beyond what is the cultural norm of acceptable level of intimacy and/or behaviors between friends and is not romantic.
Abbreviated to QPR, queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) partner to QPP. Another common word for QPP is zucchini.
Soft romo – an adjective to describe something, for example a relationship, as something that is low-level romantic.
Sources:
https://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/68737057155/nonamory
https://aromantic.lgbt/glossary
https://aromanticrey.tumblr.com/post/176993774473/time-to-coin-a-new-term
http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/glossary
https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/
https://medium.com/@Michael_Paramo/beyond-sex-the-multi-layered-model-of-attraction-1406112f3780